Living Together 101: How to Combine His and Her Décor in the Home


Forget about fighting with your partner over what colour to paint the walls and where to place the sofa. No one has time for that. Luckily for you, we’ve shared some sound advice on blending masculine and feminine décor styles, so you can keep the peace in your home.

Look for complementary items


First things first: take a look at your items and pick out anything that has a complementary colour, texture or theme. Regardless of their masculine or feminine appearance, items connected by a common link can look pretty impressive together in the home. You can style a room in all different shades of the same colour, or combine similar materials to create a particular feel. For example, lots of metal and glass creates a sleek, modern look, while leather and dark wood evokes a sense of old-world luxury.

When it comes to similar themes, this is where you can have a bit of fun. Maybe she has a collection of old comic books, while he has some vintage movie posters. Put them all up on a wall together and you’ve got a fabulous tribute to pop culture that will be a talking point in your home. Or perhaps he has a white wicker table and she’s got some beachy accessories – together they can create a room with a laid-back coastal feel. Mixing and matching can create a real wow factor, and nobody has to sacrifice their beloved items.

Use colour


While women tend to favour pastel hues and men often have a thing for darker shades, there is a way to bring both together in a stylish, attractive way. It’s about finding decorative accent colours to bring the two opposing shades into a complete and unified look.

There are a few ways to do this, depending on how different your colour palettes are. If they are quite similar, you can choose an accent colour in the same general family to complete the look and create a harmonious, restful feel. For example, you could use a soft violet to bring blues and purples together. However, if your individual colour schemes are on opposing sides of the colour wheel, you’ll need to bring in a third contrasting colour to balance things out.

Let’s say he wants to paint the walls dark blue, but all of her favourite items are yellow. No problem. They could just bring in a few red accessories to tie the two contrasting colours together and create a unified colour palette. As a general rule, you should use your accent colour at least three times to make a real impact.

If you’re not sure what colours will help bring your space together, an interior designer such as Candlewick Interior Design & Decoration in Camberwell can help.




Adding a few accessories to big furniture items is a great way to balance out the levels of masculinity and femininity. For example, let’s say your guy can’t bring himself to part with the old brown leather couch he’s had since his uni share house – and you think it’s an eyesore that’s straight up ruining your indoor design jam. Try sprucing it up by adding a patterned soft throw rug to add a splash of colour – not to mention extra comfort – and feminise that macho sofa. Meanwhile, some bright cushions (primrose yellow and crimson are trending this season) are the perfect antidote to a bland bedspread. It’s all about using small touches to bring balance and a sense of harmony to the living space.

Bridge the gap with basics


When you’re moving in with your partner, it’s often unlikely that you’ll own every single piece of furniture needed to build a home. Maybe neither of you had a dining table, or you’re upgrading to a queen-size bed for the first time. There will definitely be some gaps in the décor just based on the layout and look of your new space – perhaps you need more shelving for storage, or you want a rug for your new home’s hardwood floor.

Your goal is to find furnishings to fill those vacant areas that will tie your two trademark styles together. One of the easiest ways to do this is to find very basic items. For instance, if your living room is full of mismatched knickknacks and you need a new lounge, look for one in a neutral colour and material to avoid adding unnecessary confusion to the décor. In general, the key is to keep things simple. Avoid statement pieces and instead opt for basic materials (such as powder-coated metal or plain wood) and unobtrusive colours such as pale grey.

You’ll both have some fun shopping around while really getting to know and appreciate each other’s individual tastes.

Embrace the contrast

Don’t sweat it if one of you likes rustic wooden pieces and the other refuses to compromise on decorating with luxurious lace. A healthy contrast of materials and colours is a great thing. Just remember to fill the room with both masculine and feminine energy to create a well-balanced space.

To do this, always make sure you step back and look critically at your interior stylings. Ask yourself questions: Is there a tendency to have soft colours or vibrant ones? Is the furniture characterised by straight lines and function over form, or is it softer and more ornate? If you find a room is leaning too much to one side, apply a little of the opposite. For example, offset vintage bedding with a basic dark wood bed frame to suit your different tastes and ensure you get the interiors you both want.

Problem solved, peace restored! But if you need help with any other home improvement issues, check out our blog for plenty of useful tips and handy information.

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